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Alex Holmes, deputy CEO of the Diana Award, outlines some useful things to do if your child is being bullied online or off
Tips if your child is being bullied
- Talk to your child about whom they can talk to and where they can go if they are being bullied during the day. There may be clubs at break times where they could go to feel less vulnerable.
- Encourage them to not retaliate or react to the bullying, as this often fuels bullying behaviour. Get them to practise being assertive and having strong body language and facial expressions. Tell them to remove themselves from the situation as quickly as they can and to report any instances of bullying to an adult.
- Monitor your child. Ask them how school has gone and check in regularly with a teacher to see how they are getting on during the day. If you don’t get a detailed response ask questions. Stay positive.
- Bullying can hugely reduce a child’s confidence and self-esteem. When your child is at home try to highlight their strengths and do activities which they enjoy and which help relieve stress.
- Keep a log/record of your child’s bullying incidents so you have evidence should you need to take the matter higher up in the school.
- Don’t let the problem get you down. It's understandable to be worried but try to remain positive and not to worry – that's the best route to developing an action plan.
- Give the school a chance to work with your child to try and reduce the bullying. If you feel the school is not doing enough to address the bullying, you may want to take the matter to the school governors.
The Anti-Bullying Ambassador Programme
The Anti-Bullying Ambassador programme is run by the youth charity, the Diana Award. Set up in 2012 the programme aims to give staff and young people the skills, knowledge and confidence to take a lead on tackling bullying in their schools and communities. Our team visit schools and youth organisations in England, Wales, Scotland, Ireland and Northern Ireland to train young people and staff up to help ensure that the 11,000 hours young people spend at school are safe, happy and supportive. Since April 2013 the programme has trained up 6,700 young of all ages and abilities to be Anti-Bullying Ambassadors.
‘Young people are the best placed to make changes happen’
The Anti-Bullying Ambassador programme believes that young people are the best placed to make changes happen and thus adopts a peer-led approach. It shows young people what bullying behaviour looks like, explores the different types of bullying, outlines what to do if they’re being bullied; and gives them tips to reduce bullying. This prepares them to go back to their schools to work at shaping the behaviour and attitudes of their peers and the school as a whole.
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First published: June 2014
Updated: May 2018