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Celebrating your child’s inner beauty

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Parent Info has partnered with the Dove Self-Esteem Project to offer parents advice and information to help children and young people build confidence and feel good about themselves.

In this article, we look at the importance of what lies beneath the skin

All parents want is for their child to be comfortable and confident in their own skin. In a world full of filters and edited selfies, it can be tricky for young people to be happy with their appearance. When they’re upset or angry, your child might call themselves ‘fat’ or ‘ugly’ but doing this puts undue emphasis on their appearance as a way of expressing their emotions. It’s also important to consider how you see yourself, especially around your children. If they see you complaining about your own appearance, they might think this is normal and pick up the habit too.

It can also work the other way where your child is reluctant to accept a compliment from friends or family for fear of looking big-headed or vain. Encourage them to appreciate the compliments they receive because recognising your own talents and beauty is all part of building positive self-esteem.

Tip: Set a good example – don’t criticise your own body in front of them

Lead by example and celebrate your own inner beauty and encourage your child to do the same too.

Read more about how your child can celebrate their inner beauty

‘My least favourite body part is my skin… my mum says it’s like chicken!’

In this video, women are asked to share what their least favourite body part is. The average time it takes to answer is just two seconds. Then they're asked to share what their most beautiful body part is, which takes them much longer to answer. Listen out for the common reasons they give and see if you’ve ever said the same thing about yourself.

Download your FREE 40-page parent guide to boosting your child's self-esteem here

This downloadable pdf contains expert advice from Dove Self-Esteem Project global experts from the fields of psychology, body image, self-esteem, eating disorders and media representation to create a resource for parents that is focused on advice and action.  

Teachers: for free downloadable teaching resources, go to the Dove Self-Esteem Project area on

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The advice published on Parent Info is provided by independent experts in their field and not necessarily the views of Parent Zone or NCA-CEOP.

First published: January 2018


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