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Resources to help you talk to your child about racism

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As the Black Lives Matter campaign gathers momentum around the world, there has never been a better time to talk to children about prejudice, diversity and inclusion.

With the recent news dominated by images of mass demonstrations, children are likely to have questions about what they have seen and heard.

Parents and carers can play a key role in starting the conversation which can shape their child’s world view and help to build a more inclusive and aware society. 

Fortunately there are many resources – both online and off – available to support you as you talk about the issue.

Getting started

According to America’s National Museum for African American Culture and History (NMAAHC), the number one question people have asked since it opened in 2016 is how to talk about race, and they offer plenty of online help. 

Their introductory video offering Five Things Everyone Should Know About Racism is a good starting point for parents and older children in explaining some basic concepts and terminology.

Thinking about identity

The UK charity Show Racism the Red Card has developed a wealth of educational material for schools and for parents. This simple worksheet Who Am I? encourages discussion around identity, skin colour and stereotypes.

For parents keen to start their child on an anti-racism journey from an early age, the board book A is for Activist by Innosanto Nagara is the perfect guide.

And to help your child build a sense of self as a member of a community, eeBoo has produced a memory game, involving 24 multicultural characters, called I Never Forget a Face.

The importance of the conversation

If you are wondering how to start the conversation with slightly older children, you’ll find plenty of help from the childcare platform Yoopies, who have published A Parent’s Guide to Black Lives Matter.

They remind parents, hesitant about such discussion, of the words of Ijeoma Oluo in So You Want to Talk About Race: “If you’re white, and you don’t want to feel any of that pain by having these conversations, then you are asking people of colour to continue to bear the entire burden of racism alone.” 

The guide says, “If we immediately shut down our children’s remarks or comments on race, we risk making it into a taboo topic. Invite children to actively see colour, to see culture, to see history, and to acknowledge that race has an impact on people’s life experiences.”

They offer a child-friendly lens through which to view the death of George Floyd and advice on how to start the conversation. For younger children, they recommend discussions focused around fairness as a way of framing inequality and injustice. For older children, they suggest listening to what your children know, so you can build on their conversation and help fill the more difficult or challenging gaps.

Another resource to facilitate conversations is available from the blog Raising Race Conscious Children: they have compiled 100 race-conscious things you can say to your child.

There are also a number of podcasts for families – either with advice for parents on talking to their children or directed at the children themselves, with stories and music to encourage positive feelings about identity. 

Bello Collective has collated eight podcasts, featuring a range of experts, for parents and 10 for children, including So Get Me - the Alphabet Rockers’ podcast for families making change, featuring young activists and some lively dance tracks.

Activism and the older child

As older children increasingly understand ideas about racial bias, prejudice and social injustice, they may well feel empowered to be agents for change. Show Racism the Red Card has a collection of videos featuring young people, footballers and politicians talking about their personal experiences of racism.

And the BBC has three short films, suitable for 14 – 16-year-olds, that focus on the murder of Stephen Lawrence to discuss attitudes to identity, diversity and immigration.

To foster understanding of another event in recent British history, The Story of the Windrush by K. N. Chimbiri is a good place to start. An inspiring story of pioneering migrants, it takes readers, age seven and above, through 22 real-life stories, including accounts by David Lammy and Lenny Henry.

Celebrating black achievements 

Parents can help their children celebrate black achievements and diversity by exposing them to different cuisines, authors, musicians and artists.

You can also choose books with a positive message or inspiring black protagonist such as: Amazing Grace by Mary Hoffman (for under-5s) – a picture book classic about a black girl who believes she can do anything; Trombone Shorty by Troy “Trombone Shorty” Andrews (for ages 4-8) – an autobiographical account of becoming a world-famous musician against the odds; and Malcolm Little: The Boy Who Grew Up to Become Malcolm X by Ilyasah Shabazz (for ages 6-10) – written by his daughter and celebrating his optimism and resilience in the face of intolerance and tragedy.

Organisations such as BookTrust and LoveReading recommend books on a wide variety of topics, including racism.

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