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When your child’s anger may be linked to low self-esteem

It can be very difficult to understand why your child might be acting out in anger. There isn’t always one single factor causing a child to become angry, but it can come from a combination of things. Sometimes having low self-esteem can make it difficult for your child to deal with their anger. Here are some instances when angry outbursts may be linked to low self-esteem.

When your child is being bullied

When a child is struggling with low self-esteem, they can be more vulnerable to verbal abuse. They might be bullied for their looks or personality which can make them feel overly conscious. These feelings might seem overwhelming to them and instead of dealing with the emotions caused by the bullying, they may find it easier to channel them as anger.

When your child feels as though they don’t fit in socially

If your child is lacking in body confidence and struggles with low self-esteem, they probably won’t feel attractive or ‘cool’ enough to be worthy of fitting in with their peers. They may find it difficult to build healthy friendships. They may be experiencing lots of feelings including isolation, discontent with the way they look, jealousy when it comes to other pupils’ appearances or feeling inadequate when compared to the images that they come across on social media or magazines. These feelings can be overwhelming, especially if your child doesn’t know how to express them and bottles things up.

When a child feels that they are not being heard

If your child has low self-esteem, they will most likely not have the confidence to speak up in class at school and may even feel as though their opinions are not worthy. If your child thinks that they are not able to achieve certain things or that their opinions do not matter this can build up as frustration which may eventually trigger outbursts.

How to boost your child’s confidence and self-esteem...

If your child has low self-esteem, they will need your reassurance so that they know they have someone trustworthy that they can talk to who can help them figure out why they may be feeling this way.

The free Uniquely Me parent guide from the Dove Self-Esteem Project is a 40-page booklet packed with expert advice and some practical activities to help support you with boosting your child’s self-esteem and body confidence.

Read, download or print the free Uniquely Me parent guide

Uniquely Me contains expert advice from Dove Self-Esteem Project global experts from the fields of psychology, body image, self-esteem, eating disorders and media representation to create a resource for parents that is focused on advice and action.

Teachers: for free downloadable teaching resources, go to the Dove Self-Esteem Project area on ParentZone.org.uk

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The advice published on Parent Info is provided by independent experts in their field and not necessarily the views of Parent Zone or NCA-CEOP.

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